Greeting etiquette, kids at school, but how about with your family?
I am the kind of person who likes to show affection to those close to me. I grew up in a culture where the handshakes, hugs, and kisses on the cheek when greeting someone are part of the norm but I quickly modified my norm when I moved to the US simply because I was in uncharted territories. When in Rome do as the Romans they say. I arrived in Rome but didn't know about the unspoken yet known social rules and all I could do to go about my day was to follow the golden rule of respecting others and to stay within my kindergarten space.
How does all this relate to food? I'll circle back to this after I tell you a couple of stories.
First, last Sunday I experienced handshakes and high fives when I went to play beach volleyball along with Corey, Rebecca and Kasha. We lost both games. Then, after the games, I rushed back and went to J.F's home for band practice. I don't remember any formal greeting because all band members arrived at different times and got immediately to set up their instruments and to tune-ups. However, in the end, I began to say the proper goodbyes with the bro hugs when J.F. mentioned that now we gotta get used to new greeting procedures, some of which he learned at a conference last week. Instead of handshakes or hugs, elbow touches or footsies are being practised.
Just this morning my son kissed me on the cheek when I dropped him off at school and a thought came to my mind: Should I ask him not to do that anymore? I quickly tossed the thought out of the window and honestly I haven't thought about it until now.
Why is this? You might know the Corona Virus has governments and many people freaking out, on high alert or adjusting to what's going on all around the world apparently in all five continents except for Antarctica. Jo just came back from Costco and told me how crazy is there and how empty shelves are starting to look. Working in the food industry has made me more aware of how important is to keep hygiene a top priority. On an almost related note, I've heard and read commentaries about how people with low wages and no health insurance or paid sick leave will not miss work even when they are sick, and how so many of those people with low wages work in the food industry. If you've heard those reports as well I want to assure you that we don't allow our team to work while they're sick, that is if we know they are sick. We relate the rule to our team that if they have had a fever or thrown up within 24 hours of their shift they cannot and shouldn't show up to work. How do I know our procedures work? I've sent people back home in the past because they showed up and looked sick. Some times some of our employees have actually called and shared their symptoms and we've asked them to stay home. Now, here in San Diego and I think California, employees have paid sick leave even at small businesses like ours so we should all feel assured that in California people in the service industry have a way to stay home when they are sick and not loose pay for that day or days. It is a law that while it helps those who belong to the working class, it affects small businesses that run on a day to day, week to week or month to month basis budget.
Lastly, today when I was dropping my daughter off at school there was this kid, a boy to be specific, who approached my daughter and began to touch her from her arms to her chest because of the soft sweater my daughter was wearing, he wouldn't stop and I saw my daughter a little confused because at home we teach our kids to keep their hands to themselves and she also doesn't like others invading her personal space. When she looked at me I told her to tell the kid to stop, back away and not do that, she immediately told proceeded to tell the kid to stop, but he didn't immediately stop until the second time my daughter said no. The father in my wanted to intervene immediately and I looked around looking for the boy's parents to ask them to talk to their son. I also wanted my daughter to stand up for herself. A lesson to learn? Yes. Believe me, mom and I are going to have a talk with our daughter after school.
I felt angry and very bothered wondering if the boy's parents have also taught their kid to keep his hands to himself. Two things that are important in this episode is that yes, kids are going to get exposed to diseases at school. In a way that's good because I believe it strengthens the immune system, in another way I feel is very important to also teach our kids to practice hygiene and to keep their hands away from other kids as well as demanding other kids to keep their hands away to themselves. The one thing that bothered me most was this kid touching my daughter the way he did. The boy needs to learn this, now that he's young, and my daughter must learn to say NO when a boy approaches her like that. To all parents out there, please do your job as a parent and teach your kids to respect other kids, especially teach your boys to respect girls, or teach your girls to demand respect from other kids, especially boys.
So, how does all this relate to food? As I mentioned before, at Cueva Bar Cafe we work hard to prepare food while following the sanitary procedures provided to us by the health department, and I also like to think that your safety is my personal highest priority so I make sure to remind my team often of such food safety procedures to make sure the food you eat is going to do good to you. I personally cannot get sick, yet, thankfully I have a wife who will cover and has covered at work for me when I am sick.
Stay safe out there, don't panic, wash your hands, and just make sure to be prepared because is better to be safe than sorry, right?
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About the author:
I chef Oz write these blogs. I am a home cook gone pro when my wife Jo and I decided to open Cueva Bar Cafe in San Diego California. I am passionate about offering a space where people gather for a good time, and to enjoy mindfully prepared tapas, made with love and passion by our culinary team. I'm all about inclusive peace, love, mutual respect, unity, kindness, and compassion under the sun with liberty and justice for all.
Let tapas bring us together!
Cueva Bar Café is my approach to the concept of Tapas with an essence of Mexican cuisine, known for continuous reinvention and embracing evolution, where food is prepared in a cosy, relaxed and inclusive atmosphere.
Letting the inspiration flow and keeping balance in mind, I marry Mexico’s ingredients and flavours with elements from around the U.S and the world using local - organic produce and vendors as much as possible to create both delicious and healthy dishes that have little to zero impact on our environment.
Cueva Bar in San Diego California offers a tapas and small plates inspired menu with plenty of omnivores, gluten-free, vegetarian and vegan options.
Happy hour is from Tuesday to Friday from 4 pm to 6 pm.
Happy hour offerings are $2 off all food on the menu and $2 off all drinks by the glass.
Late-night menu on Friday and Saturday from 9 pm to 11 pm we offer a pizza menu.
Monthly Wine Tasting. Happens every first Saturday of every month from 3pm-4pm.
2123 Adams Avenue, San Diego, California, 92116.